Many life coaches will ask their clients this question, “If money were not an object what would you do?” It provokes all sorts of thoughts, dreams and ideas and is great for motivating people to challenge themselves and take risks to bring about positive change.
So today, I ask you, “What could you do, or would you do if you were thinner?” Do you have any idea? Have you ever allowed yourself to imagine what life would be like if you were thinner?
Let’s define what being thinner might mean. Well, for starters it means that you weigh less than you do presently. Now, since this is a total exercise of pure imaginary creation, you can envision whatever shape you like. Try to keep your ideal model of the same height since that aspect will remain the same unless you are a growing child. Other than your height, there is no restriction to the body that you can imagine for yourself.
1. What would your ideal body mean to you in the way of day-to-day life?
2. How might people treat you differently?
3. How might you feel about the new you?
4. Would your love life change?
5. What exactly would make it change?
People will treat you differently when you lose weight. Some people will notice your efforts right away and be quick to compliment you and offer moral support. Others might feel vulnerable. Strange though it sounds, friends can feel threatened anytime you try to make positive changes in your life. Perhaps it’s because they are worried that once you don’t have the stifling handicap of excess weight, their leverage will be gone and you will no longer need their friendship. They fear that you will move on and leave them behind. Family members and spouses sometimes experience these same feelings of doubt.
I’m sure many of us have experienced similar feelings. Either with a friend who seemed to wish us failure or in the reverse case where we become the saboteur with our own self-doubt, wishing to disrupt the efforts of a friend.
These insightful feelings that seem to spring up out of nowhere, have roots deep within our psyche. Though we often confuse these feelings with jealousy, they are actually evidence of fear, afraid that we will be left behind, afraid that we are less than what even we think we are.
But what would you do if you were thinner? Would you buy the latest fashions? Would you wear a bikini? Now be honest, there are no restrictions to how skinny that you can imagine yourself. This is your own mind game—so now that you see yourself—would you wear a bikini or is the style just not for you?
How about a fitted evening dress or a pair of jeans you had back in school—can you envision your imaginary body wearing any of these things? Don’t stop to think if it is a viable thought—just allow yourself the act of imagination.
How would the new thin you act at home? If you have a husband or partner, how would they react to the new thin you? More than likely, love making would take on a whole new dimension. Oh sure, there would probably be no change in the amount of love, or the way you love or are loved, but there will be something new. Your own self-image will release your inhibitions and you will feel more relaxed and contented about making love. When a girl feels pretty and sexy, she can perform much better in bed.
Now that you have your new imaginary body, how would you act at work? Do you think with your new thin body that you would have more confidence to go in and ask for a raise? You know, slimming down most always makes a positive impression on those you work for, unless of course they begin to feel threatened.
That’s because everyone knows that losing weight is hard work. It takes commitment, dedication and perseverance—three attributes of a successful business employee. So there are monetary reasons why your boss might be impressed over your weight loss efforts.
What could you do if you were thinner? You might be able to squeeze onto a couch full of people or get photographed with others without the need to turn sideways. What about when trying on clothes at your favorite boutique—would you feel more comfortable about walking out of the dressing room to show off a new swimsuit or new pair of jeans?
How would you move about if you were thinner? Remember, you can be as thin as you want. Would you run marathons? Would you wear incredibly high heels and strut your stuff? Maybe you would want to take up ballet or ballroom dancing.
What would you do around a swimming pool if you were thinner? Would you be more apt to sit out or walk around without a cover-up? Would you wear bright colors or a certain style?
What sports could you participate in if you were thinner? Would you take up dance, tennis or golf? Would you go to the gym more often just to show off your body?
There are so many possibilities when we use our imaginations. There are just as many possibilities when you use a journal to record your day-to-day happenings. Especially a fitness journal, aimed at making you thinner, healthier and happier.
If you have never used a fitness journal before, I urge you to try one now. It has been proven time and again, that people who use a journal to write down everything they eat and drink and to record all of their physical activities have a far greater chance of successful weight loss than those who do not.
The journal is a constant reminder of where you started from and how far you have come. It is your own personal “thinner you” dream, and if you commit to using it daily, it will help you succeed. You see, the constant writing connection is much like the spark to get your imagination soaring. It’s the magical thing that happens when you start to write. Your creativity will explode.
So what would you do if you were thinner? Probably be kicking back and reading all the energized entries in your fitness journal … that is … if you were thinner.
Are you ready to start slimming down today? Grab a towel, a bottle of water, tuck your journal in your bag and let’s get going. There is a thinner you and it’s going to emerge real soon!
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~ Karen Ficarelli
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