Sexology 101 How Do You Score?

1. Do you ever initiate sex with your partner?
Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Light some candles, put on some nice music and invite your man to a sexual romp. He’ll enjoy your show of interest and will delight in the sexual attention.

2. Does your sex life suffer because you worry about your body’s imperfections?
Obsessing over your looks during sex can hinder you from enjoying yourself and thereby ruining your chances of achieving an orgasm.
Chances are your man does not even notice half the things that you worry about. Men are much more attracted to a woman’s enthusiasm for sex than anything else. Now is the time to show your man that you are interested in him.

Try not to think about the fat on your belly or cellulite on your butt. Allow yourself to focus on the pleasure of sex. Abandon yourself in sexual foreplay and let all other worries slip away.

3. Do you discount his need for a monogamous relationship?
Both men and women find sexual intimacy in a committed relationship to be much more satisfying than one night stands. Numerous research studies make it very clear that married couples have better quality and more frequent sex than single people.

Most men would prefer a lasting relationship; so never assume that a man is not romantic or that he would love to be free. Men as much as women, have a great need for true intimacy.

4. Do you get upset if he’s not up for sex?
The worries and pressures of everyday life can diminish a man’s sex drive. For many women this is impossible to believe and often our man’s lacking libido is something we take personally.
Women tend to get their feelings hurt, feel rejected or begin to suspect their partner has another lover. But in all fairness, it is better to keep in mind that it is not always about you, but a little about him too. Give him time, initiate conversations that are non-stressful and allow him to vent if need be.

If his lack of interest persists, a more direct discussion may be needed.

5. Do you just assume he knows what you like?
Even the best lover can’t know what a woman needs without her letting him know and believe it or not, men very much want to please women.
Talking in direct terms about sex can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time. It’s not always easy discussing what we like or don’t like in bed. But discussing it is the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.

If there is something your guy is doing that turns you off, or if you want him to give a part of your body more attention, then you need to tell him. You must take responsibility for your sexual experience. No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she is not game.

To keep form hurting his ego, begin the conversation by talking about five things that you do like, and the one thing you don’t like, this way his feelings are spared, but you get his attention. He will be thrilled to hear his prowess is appreciated and be more in tune to the things that you like while avoiding those that you don’t.

6. Do you get offended when he suggests something new?
Just because your man wants to try a little something new does not mean that he is not happy with you or your sex life. On the contrary, it usually indicates his excitement and enthusiasm with making love to you.

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to add a little variety, just to spice things up a bit.

But, just because he suggests something does not mean you have to oblige. If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your comfort zone or against your morals, tell him in a loving way, that it is not for you. If it is a simply a new request and you’re initially shocked or uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, tell him you need some time to think it over.

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